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Secret #3 of a Successful retirement

Monday, April 22nd, 2013

Take Time To Get To Know Yourself

At 61, I decided I need a better understand of “Why am I the person that I am?”  It was not an effort to better myself or to settle any depression or haunting problems but instead it was an exploration that led me far into my memory.Tall_Grass_Cover_estore[1]

The Swedish philosopher Soren Kierkegaard noted, “Life can only be understood backwards.”

I had just retired and I had realized that in my life and career I had repeated my same victories and had as well repeated my same failings.  As hard as I tried I could not change, the pattern of my life seemed to have been predetermined.  I wanted to know how that pattern had been set and “Why I was who I was?”

Two other factors entered into my decision to write my memoir or what I call a Life Review.  First I didn’t know how much more time I had and I wanted to make the most of the rest of my life; that is I wanted to live it to the fullest and I wanted to concentrate on my strengths and avoid my weaknesses.  Second, I wanted to leave something behind.  I know more about

George Washington and Abe Lincoln then I know about either of my grandfathers and I didn’t want to die at my death.

I’ve been asked “Who would want to read about your life?”  I’ve learned not my children and not many of my relatives, its mostly been people that I don’t know.  My hope is the most interested will be my grand children and those that follow them.  I also hope that they can gain some courage from what I’ve done and strive to find their creative side.

Ten Steps to a Happy Retirement

Thursday, April 4th, 2013

Thus far retirement for me has been a joy and the deeper I get into it the better I’m getting at it.  The reason this has happened is because I’ve seen retirement as a new beginning not a journey to the end.  I seek new adventures, new challenges and new friends.  Here’s a list of the 10 things that I’ve put into my

life that has made my retirement a joy.

  1. Love my wife. I’ve promised to love my wife as much as I love myself and work to make sure she knows it.
  2. Stay physically active.  This first required me to lose some weight and get physically fit.  I joined a gym and started going five days a week.  I bought a good bike, a $2500 bike.  I’m committed to ride it three days a week when the weather permits and it’s in the back seat when ever we travel by car.
  3. Form a Guy Group. Found a small group of guys that can go on a “Guy Trip” once a year or more.Lee, Ron, Phil, Kerry at Lewis Mt. Cabins
  4.  Build a business.  I’m building a retirement business that produces an ongoing stream of income.  To do this I must keep learning and challenging my mind.
  5.  Travel.  We’re seeing the world and experience how other people live.  Our trips to Asia and Central America and Europe and Russia has opened my eyes to the rest of the world and has made me appreciate other peoples ways of life as well as the quality of my life.From Russia with Love
  6. Be competitive.  I like to measure myself so I qualified to run the 100 meter and 200 meter dashes in the 2011 Senior Olympics, I’ll be cycling in the 2013 Senior Olympics and I’ll do my first Triathlon in May.  I’ve run four mini marathons 15 5k races,

    I think it’s important to have goals that you are working towards.2009 Indy Mini Marathon

  7. Build Family Traditions.  I want our family to do things after I’m gone because that’s what our family dose and that’s how our family stays together.
  8. Write a memoir.  I don’t know much about my grandfathers, I know nothing of my great-grandfathers.  That’s not going to happen to me, I wrote Tall Grass and have had it published.  I’m leaving something of myself behind.
  9. Stay involved with my children.  I believe that it’s part of my responsibility as a parent to help my children to have a better life then I’ve had, thus they need to learn from me and I need to continue to help them.holidaygroup
  10. Gather memories.  I’ve been alive now for 25,003 days, at any given time I can only remember 50 to 75 of them.  I need to have more memorable days.

A Retired Gentleman's Life

Monday, April 1st, 2013
A retired gentleman went to the social security office to apply for Social Security.

The woman behind the counter asked him for his driver’s license to verify his age. He looked in his pockets and realized he had left his wallet at home. He told the woman that

he was very sorry but he seemed to have left his wallet at home.

“I will have to go home and come back later.”
The woman says, “Unbutton your shirt.” So he opens his shirt revealing curly silver hair. She says, “That silver hair on your chest is proof enough

for me” and she processed his Social Security application.

When he gets home, the man excitedly tells his wife about his experience at the social security office. She says,

“You should have dropped your pants. You might have gotten disability too.”

Spring Promotion on The Christmas Web

Monday, April 1st, 2013

One of the things that I spend a lot of my retirement time on is The Christmas Web, it’s a children’s book that I wrote about our families 20 year Christmas Tradition.  www.ChristmasWeb.com.  I had the gift set manufactured in China last year and will make my major marketing efforts for the 2013 Christmas season.

The Christmas Web - A Family Tradition

The Christmas Web – A Family Tradition

 

Rather then Nita and I spending our fall going from one Christmas bazaar to another I’ve decided to spend that time and money working with Mommy Bloggers to build consumer awareness.  I figure that I can put my product in front of 2

to 3 million mothers through Mommy blogs and sell the product off my website rather than through the Christmas Bazaars.   If this works it will eliminate nights out on the road and long hours of making my pitch to any mother that will listen for 8 to 10 hours a day.

Anyway, I’m testing my marketing program this month with 15 Mommy blogs that will offer The Christmas Web at a 25% discount from April 1 through June 30, 2013.  If your interested the promotion code is SALE.

The whole idea behind The Christmas Web is to create a company that will generate years of continual income through my retirement and not necessitate employees or create a business that will interfere with my other interests.

I had the good fortune of having the local ABC affiliate come to our families Christmas Celebration last yeay and doing a piece which they aired on how order viagra online families celibrate Christams, check it out.

 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VjAXh74jYZA

Living life in retirement to the fullest

Sunday, March 31st, 2013

I consiFrom Russia with Loveder my retirement as my opportunity to get the most out of life without the obligations of work.  My children are grown and have good jobs, which I helped them acquire; I sold them my financial planning practice.  So now I’m doing what I want to do.

This blog is going

to be my chronicle of how I’m approaching retirement.  My priorities include

maintaining and improving on my health, travel, building a business that will provide us an ongoing income while having no or few employees, competing in athletic endeavors with other my age, and maintaining a happy marriage.

I hope you’ll participate in my blog adding your suggestions, experiences, and enlightenment.  Let’s form a community that we can all enjoy and grow from.

Kerry

"Oh yeah life goes on / Long after the thrill of livin' is gone"

Monday, July 4th, 2011

Yesterday John Mellencamp sang these lyrics at my morning spinning class.  It caused me to smile because the thrill of livin hasn’t gone for me yet.  Then Steven Tyler urged me to Dream on throughout my retirement.

Every time I look in the mirror
All these lines on my face getting clearer
The past is gone
It went by, like dusk to dawn
Isn’t that the way
Everybody’s got their dues in life to pay

Yeah, I know nobody knows
where it comes and where it goes
I know it’s everybody’s sin
You got to lose to know how to win

Half my life’s
in books’ written pages
Lived and learned from fools and
from sages
You know it’s true
All the things come

back to you

Sing with me, sing for the year
Sing for the laughter, sing for the tear
Sing with me just for today
Maybe tomorrow, the good lord will take you away

Dream On Dream On Dream On
Dream until your dream comes true

I do still have dreams, and I intend my retirement life to go on and the thrill of livin to never be gone.

Later this month I’m going skydiving for the first time.

I want to participate in the Olympics.

Wednesday, June 22nd, 2011

My quest to participate in the Olympics originated in 2007 while watching the Turin, Italy Winter Olympics.  I felt it would be so cool to just be a part of such a gathering of athletes.  I first searched to find what the qualifications were to be a bob-sled pusher; I felt that this was something that a 61 year old could do.  My search informed me that; yes older people did attend the tryouts but were never picked because there was a wealth of young past NFL players or soccer players or college athletes taking the winter off available for the limited position.

As the 2008 Beijing Summer Olympics approached my desire was reborn, but with a little thought I concluded that the Summer Olympics were out of  reach for an aging want-a-be.  I then found the Senior Olympics which started in 1987 with 2,500 participants and had grown to over 10,000 participants.  They are held every two years in a major US city with qualifications held in individual states in the off years.  I called the state of Alabama Senior Olympics office in Montgomery and found that; yes they would be holding qualifications in Selma in June 2oo8 for the 2009 games in San Francisco.  The problem was I was scheduled to be in Spain for the month of June, I wouldn’t be able to qualify.  I vowed to get into shape anyway, I had found a way to participate in the Olympics and I had time, after all I’m retired.

Upon returning from a month in Spain I joined a local gym that offered all the equipment that I would need and also offered group fitness classes, most from a company by the name of Les Mills.  I settled on a one hour a day seven day a week program: two days at the track running, two days at Body Pump, two days at Spinning and one day at Yoga.

By June 2010 I was in shape and Nita and I headed to Selma.  I learned that there aren’t that many 65 year old’s in Alabama, I was running in the 65 t0 69 age group, that wanted to run 100 meters as fast as they can.  There were no prelims, just the finals; five old farts standing at the start line and one guy down in starting blocks with running flats.  I never thought of that, so I grabbed a set of blocks and

gave them a try and almost landed on my nose, thus I stood up like the rest of the guys.

“On your marks.” We all stepped to the line and assumed the ready position.  “Get Set.” Weight on front leg, slight lean.   “Bang.” Yes, they used a starters pistol.  I got a fair start, don’t see the guy coming out of the blocks, at 50 meters it’s me and the guy to my right neck and neck.  I’m feeling good, I’m feeling strong.  He’s not there anymore, I’m going to win.  I did win.  I’m going to represent the state of Alabama in the Senior Olympics.  I’m going to the Olympics.

Nita called the kids, “Your dad won, he’s going to the Olympics.”

As it turned out I won the 200 meter as well.  Several days after the thrill burnt off a bit I went to the Senior Olympics website to find out what the winning times were in the the 2009 San Francisco 65 – 69 100 meter and 200 meter races.

100 meter: 13.29 seconds won, seventh was 14.44 seconds.  I qualified with 16.2 seconds.

200 meter: 27.59 seconds won, seventh was 30.80.  I qualified with 33.6 seconds.

These guys are using starting blocks, these guys are really training, these guys are really fast.  I ordered a set of starting blocks and a pair of racing flats with cleats.  I started running five 100 meter dashes in 30 minutes twice a week to build my stamina.  I could feel my legs changing, as I asked more from them the rebelled with cramps, pulls and ruptures, but I learned how to mend and build strength and speed.  I worked through the winter and by spring 2011 I was running ten to twelve 100 meter dashes in a hour with no complaints from my legs.  I had only lost ten pounds but my legs were like Michelangelo’s Davids legs.  I had even mastered the starting blocks and I was running in the 14.2 to 14.5 range.  By the first of June I was ready to go to Houston on June 20 to participate in the Olympics.

Tuesday June 7, I was on the Appalachian Trail and I ruptured a tendon in my knee as I chronicled in an earlier post.  I did no running until Saturday June 11, and then only at 50% of full speed, Tuesday June 14 I was up to 75% – to 80% speed and had run eight 100 meter dashes in 45 minutes.  “I’ll do a 200 meter to work on my stamina.”  Go, good through the first turn building speed, in lane three.  The turns put more pressure  and strain on your left inside leg, into turn two -POP- my left leg collapsed and I went down.  I’d torn a muscle in my left calf muscle.

The medical websites say for a minor tear allow two to three weeks to heal, for a major tear two to three months.  I’ve got one week, my first heat in the 100 meter prelims is at 10:55 on Tuesday June 21.

Over the next week a lot went through my mind, I was depressed, all this work and a last minute injury because I’d pushed my body to hard.  I’d always pushed my limits that’s how I’d succeed in sports, my career, even in my yard work, but now this could leave me in the stands watching.

Saturday I had an epiphany; my goal was to participate in the Olympics, I never visualized myself winning either race so my goal was still possible.  I would heal as best as I could and I will participate.

Tuesday morning after applying tubes of ointment, stretching, and warming up it still felt like I had a golf ball inside my left calf but it was time to run. I was in heat five lane six, there were 38 runners in the 65 to 69 bracket

I came out of the starting blocks at the crack of the gun still on two feet, my number one fan screamed “Go Kobie Joe”;  at the 50 meter mark I realized, “I’m going to finish this race.”  I crossed the finish line in forth with a  feeling of achievement, it had taken me more then a second longer then my qualifying time of over a year ago, before all my training, but I finished, I participated.  I had achieved my goal.

Reflecting back on the past year I realized that what I had done was not that different then my project to refurbish Trent’s 1969 Corvette.  I was putting life back into an old body.  I had trained my body like a Corvette to get off the starting line fast, to run on a flat surface, to maneuver only slight turns and to run short distances fast.  After a year of rebuilding I had gotten good at running like a Corvette, and then I took my body off road.  I went to the Appalachian Trail and asked my Corvette body to climb mountains, to maneuver on rough terrain, and to run for five hours at a time.  Then I took my beat up body racing; it just didn’t work.

My take-a-way is that the Senior Games is that it’s a gathering of people who have a lust for life, they are elder folks who have not retired to the couch.  I had breakfast with Fred from Michigan this morning, a WWII vet who will take home a  metal in the 100 meter, 200, meter, and 400 meter races.  He’s in the 95 to 99 age bracket, he’s the only runner in the 200 and 400 and one of three in the 100.  His extended family is all here to help him celebrate life.

I intend to keep the Senior Games as a part of my life.

I Fought the Appalachian Trail and the Trail Won.

Monday, June 13th, 2011

After a night at a motel and two more hours of driving up into the mountains we arrived at the Lewis Mountain Cabins.  The cabins were basic, two bedrooms with a shared bath in the middle.  Lee and I took one cabin and Ron and Phil the other.  “Put the snorers in a cabin together”, Ron directed.  We got an orientation in the camp store by Randy, who claimed to be a world class runner about 20 years ago.  Once you got Randy started you couldn’t turn him off, he wore me out with his stories and antidotes.   Our escape was a two mile hike to a south ridge overlooking the eastern valley below the Shenandoah Mountains.  This was our first introduction to the nats, they don’t bite, they don’t land on you, except to go in your ear or up your nostril.  They just form a cloud around your head, about an inch from your face.

 

The cabins about 15 of them were full, some hikers, others just spending several nights in the wilderness.  I had volunteered to bring our first nights dinner in that there were no restaurants, the nearest lodge was ten miles up the road and we needed our energy for our following days hike to the Big Meadows Lodge.  I had purchased four Rib-Eye steaks, marinated and froze them and also brought four potatoes with all the timings.  I also brought two bottles of a California Cabernet Sauvignon, Lee and I finished the first one in the pre-meal conversation and preparation. Our cookout went well and all was eaten and drank thus nothing had to be carried in the coming days.

 

 

We were all up and ready for the 9 mile hike through the mountains at 7:30 AM.  Ron and Phil had been visited by a hungry mouse thus Ron had one less grain bar and one less bag of Fiber-One for snacks on  the trail. None the less spirits were high and we were on the trail.

Within the first

mile we were into a steady climb, traversing the side of the hill in a series of switch backs, this was no walk in the woods.   We were rewarded for our efforts with a beautiful valley overlook where we stopped to rest, take in the view and have our first snack.  As we made our way back onto the trail we crossed paths with two through-hikers.  We’d seen several through-hikers earlier but these two were different.

Haleigh and Clayton Smith, brother and sister were at mile 927 having started their hike in Georgia at Springer Mountain on April 2, 2011.  What made them so different was that Haleigh is fifteen and Clayton is thirteen and their hiking on their own.  They assured us that the Appalachian through-hikers are a close knit family all looking out for each other, they hooked up with their parents every 10 to 14 days, and their cousin was two days ahead of them.   We would cross paths with Haleigh and Clayton several more times over the coming days and each of our admiration grew for these two kids.  Phil asked them what they were going to do after college, “become a doctor or lawyer?”  Their response was,”Why would we want to tie ourselves down to such a profession when there are so many opportunities available in this world.  No we’ll be entrepreneurs, we’ll start our own businesses and remain flexible in this changing world.”

Our hike continued and we attempted to gauge our speed by making calculations based on the various trail intersections.  At first we determined that we were walking one mile per hour which would mean that we would not arrive at the lodge until 4:30 or 5:00 PM, so we picked up the pace, putting more strain on our legs and other muscles that had not been accustomed to such a workout.  The scenery was magnificent and regularly changing, we all wanted to see deer and bear, but the path was in some spots rocky and in other had protruding roots so to be safe as we hiked we had to keep our eyes on the ground, placing our foot with each new step.

At 11:45 we reached a gravel road at which Haleigh had instructed us to turn right and climb to the black-top turn left and it will lead us to the lodge.  We had been hiking for over four hours, we were all exhausted, we had brought our pace up to 2.5 miles per hour, counting breaks.  The gravel road was a 40 degree climb for a quarter of a mile, I could see the black-top off in the distance.  A shirtless, heavily tattooed 22 year old through-hiker turned onto the gravel road with me.  “I’m going to keep up with him,” I said t myself, “I want to get this over.”  I put my head down and swung my arms with each stride, the 22 year old and I reached the top together and we continued up to the driveway leading into the lodge and the Way Side store.  He headed for the Way Side Store I headed for the lodge.  He probably slept comfortably in a trail side hut or in his tent that night while I tossed and turned in a queen-sized bed trying to find a comfortable spot to lay my left leg having ruptured a tendon in my knee.

 

I was unable to make the second leg of the Lodge to Lodge hike; first I could barely walk and second I was scheduled to run in the Senior Olympics in 13 days, my walk in the wood would have to stop here.  The Big Meadow Lodge was a true lodge having been built in 1939 by the CCC, with a mountain top view of the Virginia valley below.  The food for dinner and breakfast were both above my expectations and the help were obviously happy to have us as guests.

Ron, Lee and Phil set off on the second leg of our hike to the Skyline Lodge, an 7.7 mile hike through even rougher terrain.  “It was like we were were walking down a rock avalanche at times, you had to carefully pick your every step.  Even though it was shorter it was a tougher trail,”  was the consensus.  “We have another problem”, Phil informed me.  “One of Ron’s bug bites has produced a lightning bolt path across his leg, we think it may be blood poisoning, we need to get him to an emergency room.”

The balance of the afternoon was consumed with getting a ride to where we had left the car and getting Ron down the mountain to an emergency room.  The staff at the Skyline Lodge were gracious to give us a ride up to our car and when we arrived at the hospital we found that ours was not an unusual visit.  However the doctor did commit that Ron didn’t smell as bad as most of the through-hikers that showed up in the emergency room.

At dinner it was decided that our Lodge to Lodge hike would not include the scheduled Lodge to Parking Lot hike that would finish our adventure.  We had already retrieved the car and we all agreed that we would call an end to our adventure one walk in the woods early.

In hind site it was a great “guy trip” and I’ll remember the laughs and pranks that reminded me of when I was a boy, I’ll remember the beauty of the mountains and the peacefulness of the woods, I’ll also remember the strength that three guys 62 to 69 years old displayed and the daring just to have tried.  But I regret that we didn’t complete the task that we had set out to complete and I feel it wasn’t that we weren’t able it was because we expect to much from ourselves, and for that reason I will go back.

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Lodge to Lodge on the Appalachian Trail

Saturday, June 4th, 2011

Tomorrow Ron, Phil, Lee and I start our “man trip” of a three day hike on the Appalachian Trail.  Two years ago Ron and I volunteered to work on a maintenance crew for a week to do some repairs on the trail, which involved camping out and sleeping on the ground.  I don’t want to do that again.  Don’t get me wrong the week in the woods working on the trail was a great experience and I’m glad I did it but sleeping on the ground is something I don’t want to do again.

This trip will be a Lodge to Lodge Hike.  We’ll drive to Thornton Gap, Virginia (653 miles from Birmingham) where we’ll leave our car and be shuttled south to Lewis Mountain.  Here we’ll stay in trail cabins with toilet and shower facilities but will require us to cook our dinner and breakfast.   I’ll be bringing 4 rib-eyes and a bottle or two of Carbernet Sauvignon for a campfire cookout and a kickoff to a great man trip.

Tuesday we’ll hike north to Big Meadows Lodge a bit over 9 miles.   Features  may include several short steps out to viewpoints toward the westward Shenandoah Valley where if it’s a clear day we’ll be able to see into the state of West Virginia.  We’ll have the option of a side trip to an authentic Appalachian Trail hut and camp—Bearfence Hut—originally constructed by the

Civilian Conservation Corps. Tens of thousands of long-distance hikers have used this facility over the decades, and continue to use it.

Another optional side trip will be the Bearfence Scramble. This may not happen because it will  include a bit of hand-over-hand bouldering along a rocky route using a narrow ridge—however the effort if we so chose to man up will be rewarded with striking views and photo ops in all directions.

The final optional side trip will be to Lewis Falls—late in the day—down to a westward facing valley viewpoint that also features a popular waterfall. Then we’ll finish our first man day at Big Meadow Lodge.

This gives you a snip-it of what we’ll be doing; I’ll write a summary of our trip here on my blog after we get back.  I’m confident it will be a real Man Adventure.

 

Five Questions for Life Review

Thursday, April 28th, 2011

These are some good questions to ask yourself if you’re considering writing a Life Review.  I’ve also included my answers.

1.  What was the best thing that ever happened to you?  The worst?

The best thing was probably that Nita fell in love with me, without her control and questioning I can only imagine what would have happened to me.

The worst thing is easy, because of my insecure childhood I have always tested the people around me and it’s continually got me into trouble.

2.  What was the best period of your life? The worst?

Right now, I get to do what I want to do every day.  I try new things, I push myself and most important I enjoy myself.

The worst was when my mom died.

3.  If you were asked by a child about the most important thing you have learned in life, what would it be?

The most important  thing that I learned is that knowledge makes anything possible and persistence will make it happen.

4.  If you could change one decision in life, what would it

be?

I think I made a decision at anearly age that I could make it on my physical strengths and chose not to focus on my studies.  I really didn’t focus on learning until I was forced to in college.

5.  What do you need to finish your life? Can you do it from where you are right now?

To finish my life I need to stay healthy, once I loose my health I want to die a semi-violent death, and I want my last words to be ”Oh Shit”.